Ever wonder what it’s like to be married to a soldier? I’ve come up with 5 things I’ve noticed since I’ve been married to my husband. Before I was married, I thought I had a good idea of what it would be like since I had family members in the military. But, my dad retired when I was really young so it’s really not the same. Also, I’ve worked on military bases all my life but, again, it’s not the same. lol. Here are my observations. Let me know if you have anything to add! 🙂
- They don't always come home on time. (insert crying emoji here!) In the army, there is really no guarantee that you’ll be going home right at 1700 hrs. Sometimes it’s earlier (if you’re lucky) and sometimes it’s later! No joke, one time my husband’s company was held back from going home for whatever reason and my husband’s phone was dead so he couldn’t call to say he was going to be late. It was after 9:00 PM and he hadn’t come home yet. I was so worried because he’s never been out that late without me so I was starting to think something bad had happened. I was for real on the verge of calling the cops and reporting a missing person until he walked through the door! I was so mad because that was the most worried I've ever been. There’s also been countless time when I tried to prepare a nice dinner for my husband and have it ready by the time he came home only to find out he’s going to be late. Then the food gets cold and it just doesn’t look as good anymore. But…it’s the thought that counts
- Having to move around every few years (or not). I haven’t yet been on a PCS transfer with my husband since we’ve been married but it’s just the fact that you don’t know when it’s going to happen. I’m always wanting to do something around the house and figure I should hold off since we “might” have to move soon. But, I’ve come to find out that if you keep thinking like that then you’ll never get anything done. Just do whatever it is you want to do and worry about the rest later. Also, if you don’t like the base the you are stationed at, you might be looking forward to that next PCS order. It might seem like you’re stuck in one place forever. But, you just have to learn make the best out of your current surroundings and situations.
- You learn to be more independent. There are going to be times that your significant other will have to be away from home for long periods of time whether its a deployment, a field exercise or a special mission - it’s inevitable. You have to know how to handle things when they’re not home; pay bills, fix things around the house, pretty much hold the fort down. My husband is always helping with everything; carrying grocery bags into the house, taking the trash out, etc. We go to Sam’s Club and buy this huge case of water to last the month. I was thinking what I would do without him since it’s pretty heavy and I always count on him to bring it in the house….. I’d probably just buy the smaller case. LOL That’s a pretty simple example but you get the point.
- It’s like they speak a different language. The military uses abbreviations for almost everything; TDY (Temporary Duty), LES (Leave & Earnings Statement), DEERS (Defense Enrollment Eligibility System), just to name a few. I grew up around the military and worked on a military base so I knew some but there’s still a lot I learned after being married to my husband. For my husband, it’s kind of hard to get away from speaking in “military language” when you’re around it all day everyday. I always have to stop my husband and say “what?!” whenever he throws one of those acronyms at me. You learn as you go though. I’ve also gotten used to using military time when talking to my husband
- Expect the unexpected. There really is no guarantees when you’re in the army. You have to be prepared for anything at any given time. This means your husband having to work on the weekends unexpectedly, 24 hours CQ and Staff Duty, having to be away for days, weeks or even months at a time due to Field Exercises, TDYs or Deployments. It’s not always fun but it’s something that you learn to deal with and, over time, it gets easier to handle.
These are just 5 points that I decided to talk about today but there are many more that I haven’t mentioned. I realized that some of the points I listed above don’t sound too appealing but there really is a bright side to everything. I’ve mentioned this before but having a husband or loved one in the military really pushes you to cherish every moment. Don’t waste your time being down about the things that are out of your control.
Make the best out of every day and every moment in your day!
I love my husband and I’ve known him before and after he joined the military. I’ve seen the ways the military has formed him into who he is today and continues to mold him everyday!
Until next time,